I’ll never forget how lonely I felt after my Crohn’s disease diagnosis. It was right after college graduation, when my boyfriend and I were navigating a long-distance relationship while trying to find our footing in the real world. For months, he had talked about our future. As the partner of someone who has a long-term condition like Crohn’s, you’ll see their ups and downs with the disease. Whether your partner's in an active phase of Crohn's or in remission, information, communication, and a lot of patience will keep your relationship healthy. Crohn’s disease can occur in people of any age. If you’re dating with Crohn’s disease, you may wonder when you should tell a date about your condition. Certain changes in genetic code seem to make some people more susceptible to developing inflammatory bowel disease, like Crohn’s. Dating can be difficult under the best circumstances. For the approximately 1 million people in the United States dealing with Crohn's disease.
Having a chronic illness shouldn't stop you from finding that special someone. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there!. Dating and chronic illness, that’s an oxymoron isn’t it? It’s dating someone who prefers sweats, albeit very chic sweats but sweats nonetheless, hot tea to wine and checks out exactly where the bathroom is located in every situation especially at the date’s house and one who immediately thinks of how she can swing it so she has a reason to use the bathroom the furthest away from him like in. The basement as opposed to the lovely warm one right off the living room.
A few months after we started dating, we were walking through my neighborhood, scoping out the pretty houses we imagined we could afford at the time. This dating with crohns meant cutting vertically into my abdomen, leaving me with a painful recovery, one long scar, and the realization that I needed to seriously re-evaluate my life choices and drastically change my lifestyle, even if that affected my partner.
That meant re-thinking and revising the very things thought brought us together: cooking rich, homemade meals, drinking copious amounts of good wine, staying out late with friends, and neglecting exercise in favor binge-watching Netflix. He stayed with me through each four-hour infusion of Remicade.