I'm dating a guy who gets mad at me over little things, like very little things. I do love him, but I feel like he's controlling me with his emotions. The guy I'm dating never texts me and I feel like he doesn't care about me but when I see him he shows me he likes me and wants me.
Nov 30, Andrew Zaeh for Bustle How much time you spend together when you first start dating is a hot topic of debate in my friendship group. He recently wrote in Psychology Today in favor of "the once-a-week rule for new relationships".
Which is pretty much what it sounds like: you start out seeing each only dating once only once a week, then slowly build up. He explains: "To naysayers who say that new lovers should throw caution to the wind and let things flow organically, I would respond by saying that two people who are meant to be together will end up together, regardless of whether they see each other once a week or five times a week. To be safe, couples would week themselves well to see each other once a week for the first month, and then increase the frequency with each week after that point.
If you meet someone you like and spend several nights together in the first week, or spend multiple hours with them over the course of several days, you will typically start feeling a sense of intense emotional closeness. You're Getting A Warped View Andrew Zaeh for Bustle And it's not just that you're becoming dependent on them, it's that you're becoming dependent on a particular version of them, the one that you meet when you first start dating.
I've seen friends get into relationships because it just seems like the default after they've been seeing someone three times a week for a month — but you don't want to commit to something just because of a default.